• Why do your relationships end up in the same place?
• Can you change your partner?
• Why is it bad to avoid conflict?
• Why does your partner push your buttons?
• When should you walk away from a relationship?
• Polarity and “flat” relationships
• How to quit being hijacked by your emotions (and saying things you wish you hadn’t)
• Is Lisa Oz fooling around with Dr Oz?

• How fear gets in the way of us taking risks
• How to figure out how to blend what you love to do AND earn some cash
• The main ingredient for success -- any success in any field
• What needs to happen before you ditch your hell-hole of a job

• Why should you care about EFT?
• How can tapping on your face can help you make bank?
• What the hell is EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique?
• How are your emotions connected to that stiff back or upset stomach?
• How are your limiting beliefs and self-destructive patterns actually helping you?

• What is it like to be a hot chick?
• What if you said EVERYTHING that crossed your mind to others?
• What is it like to be totally whipped?
• Should you piss sitting down?
• How does your behavior change your thoughts?
• What does George Washington have to do with your penis?
• What’s one, simple practice that’ll make a huge improvement in your life?

• What is a men’s group?
• What is it not?
• Why should you care?
• How would you know if a men’s group could benefit you?
• How are most guys screwing up?
• How are some guys like walking tea kettles?
• What does this have to do with a fear of failure?
• How do truly successful guys utilize the power of others?
• What’s available at http://www.mensgroup101.com/thenewman

• How do you get the most out of an online dating site?
• Is there a stigma around online dating?
• How are dating sites different from Facebook and other community sites?
• How are guys screwing up their profiles?
• How is your profile perceived by your potential partner?
• How long should you plan to be on an online dating site?
• How can you create a unique and authentic profile?
• How to move the online interaction into a face to face date?
• How many dates should you go on?
• What’s more important -- shared values or shared interests?
• Where online can you find women with depth and consciousness?
• Visit http://soulmates.gaia.com/

• What is the Tao of Business and how can it help you even if you don’t own a business?
• Do you need an MBA or a bunch of training to run a business?
• How can learning too much be harmful?
• How does personal development influence how you earn a living?
• What is the practice Derek uses to turn *everything* into a positive experience?
• If you’re prone to take things seriously, how can you learn to be more playful and creative with your life?
• What’s the simplest way to build a solid business in a very short period of time?
• How did the Segway inventor screw up royally and what can you learn from this?
• Visit Derek Sivers online: http://sivers.org

• Health: Deepak Chopra, John Gray, Candace Pert, Olivia Newton John & John Easterling, Judith Orloff, Joan Borysenko, Norman Shealy, Eric Pearl, Len Saputo, Mary Shomon, Jennifer MacLean, Lee Gerdes, Mona Lisa Schulz

• Personal Growth: Debbie & Arielle Ford, Dan Millman, John Assaraf, Hale Dwoskin, Vishen Lakhaini, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dave Ellis, Brian Johnson, Mike Robbins, Tripp Lanier & Jayson Gaddis, Zen DeBrucke, Amy Ahlers

• Business: T. Harv Eker, Michael Port, Robin Sharma, Lance Secretan, Chip Conley, Ray Blanchard, Jeff Hoffman, David Finkel, Lynne Twist, Mari Smith, DC Cordova, Cynthia Kersey, Charlotte & Laura Shelton, James Malinchak, Bettie Spruill, Rinaldo Brutoco

• Spirituality: Marianne Williamson, Michael Bernard Beckwith, Andrew Cohen, James Twyman, Genpo Roshi, Andrew Harvey, Carter Phipps, Lisa Schrader, Paul & Patty Richards, Ron Alexander, Lauren Mackler, Paul Hoffman, Ellen Debenport, Nicole Daedone, Stephen Dinan & Devaa Haley Mitchell

• Societal Change: Gregg Braden, Seane Corn, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Jean Houston, Starhawk, Aqeela Sherrils, Azim Khamisa, Steve Bhaerman, Fred Johnson, David Cooperrider, Anodea Judith, Lynne McMullen, Richard Rudd, Miki Kashtan, Stacey Lawson

• Special track for Entrepreneurs: Sharon Drew Morgen, Morgana Rae, Ken Foster, Leesa Barnes, Garrett Sutton, Larry Ousley, James Burgin & John Ward, Steve Maxwell, Leslie Grossman, Brian Burt, Dave Buck

• Special series for Facilitators: Harrison Owen, Juanita Brown & Nicole Boyer, David Isaacs, Diana Whitney, Christine Whitney Sanchez

• Why do men have a tendency to isolate when they struggle?
• Should a guy just “get back on the horse” or “spend some time alone”?
• How can a bad breakup infect future interactions with women?
• Why do we idealize our partner after they’re gone?
• How does stress from the breakup or loss ravage your body?
• Why is acting like a tough guy actually a sign of weakness?
• How to avoid collapsing into your own self pity?
• How do you work with intense emotions and confusion?
• What can you do to help the recovery process move along quicker?
• When is it okay to get back into dating?
• How can breakups be a catalyst for getting your life on track?
• When is it time to get professional help?

Male Sexuality & The Masculine Invitation Evolving Spirit Through Man’s Embodied Form
with Dr. Marc Gafni & Vidyuddeva
 November 13th - 15th Salt Lake City, Utah
Click here to register and for more information
 

                                                                                               
Join us in creating the Evolutionary Integral Masculine...

Join us for this 3-day weekend retreat at a beautiful, green-built, urban retreat center in Utah as Dragon’s Den begins its 2 year evolution of what it means to be a man in our postmodern world. Spiritual artist and teacher Dr. Rabbi Marc Gafni and his team of evolutionary teachers lead an exploration to find your cutting edge in body, mind and spirit through your masculine form. Discover how to hold your masculine power. Learn how to deepen, expand and deploy this power as the highest expression of your Authentic Divine Self. Navigate the unique demands of your life in an integral community of like-minded evolutionary men. Step into your greater wisdom, lead from a greater perspective and discover how your sexuality is essential to your purpose in the world.

During our 3-day retreat you will:

→ Understand the 5 core characteristics of the Masculine Sexual Self
→ Dive into the 5 dimensions of the Feminine Sexual Essence
→ Gain integrated practices for working with Pain, Intimacy and Love
→ Learn the 3 most potent practices to cultivate your Masculine Power
→ Embody the new Emerging Masculine Identity for the 21st Century


What is the Dragon's Den?

Are you the evolution of man unfolding right now? Are you the embodiment of your fullest expression of what it means to be a man? Do you know your most fundamental freedom or are you living your life with less?

Dragon's Den is a first-of-its-kind Men's Integral Practice Community committed to the evolution of masculine leadership and consciousness. This is not another fad to come and go, it's not another attempt to recapture a myth about what it means to be a man nor is it just another way to think about manhood. Dragon's Den is a vehicle to transform the very fabric of your life and how you enact your purpose, your strength and your passion as you shift mere fate into the destiny of your life.

Dragon's Den brings the highest level teachings through the most comprehensive frameworks currently available. The Den isn't just a one way street though. You don't just come and passively learn.  Men around the world, our integral practice community and our teachers are not only invested in supporting the leading instruction on men's issues but are equally invested in discovering and clarifying the unknown emerging edge of manhood. Your unique participation and leadership is required to move men and women forward into our greater sense of beauty, truth and goodness.

Dr. Marc Gafni is the co-founder of iEvolve: Global Practice Community (Co-founded with Diane Musho Hamilton, Sally Kempton- Durgananda and Sofia Diaz, and Executive Director Kelly Sosan Bearer), as well as the Director and a Fellow at the Integral Life Spiritual Center of Integral Life. Marc is The Teacher in Residence of Shalom Mountain Retreat Center Wisdom School. He is also the co-founder and Editor of Incorrect Inc. publishing movement, co-founded with Mary Lainer, as well as the Scholar in Residence of Pacific Coast Community Church (under the direction of Dr. Bill Little).
 
 

Vidyuddeva is a Zen Priest, Biblical Mystic and Tantric Evolutionary whose teachings cultivate three unique expressions of enlightenment: Suchness, Spirit, and Self-Story. In partnership with Stagen Institute, he guides business leaders in the discipline of sculpting the passionate purpose of their lives into the art of joyfully being freely and fully alive. He is pioneering new integral methodologies engaging our shared humanity in the recognition that God’s glory is the human being fully alive. He is a core faculty member of iEvolve: Global Practice Community.
 

• What drains you?
• What depletes you?
• What’s the difference between pleasure and enjoyment?
• Bill Harris, “Thresholds of the Mind” & Holosync
• What are the fundamentals to living a satisfying life?
• Why is a gratitude journal huge?
• Quit your bitching!
• Are you proactive or do you play the victim?
• What is the quickest ticket to depression?
• What is a practical optimist?
• How does a pessimist view the world?
• How to be more optimistic?

• http://philosophersnotes.com/thenewman

• What is positive psychology?
• Why does it matter to you?
• Martin Seligman, “Authentic Happiness”
• Abraham Maslow

• Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, “Flow”

• What is the science of happiness, true well-being and flourishing?
• Happiness is the end game -- beyond material possessions, spirituality, relationships, sex
• What are your unique strengths?
• Find your signature strengths at http://www.authentichappiness.com
• How do you find out what you love?
• Do you have a job, a career or a calling?
• Marci Shimoff, “Happy for No Reason”
• Maslow, “What one CAN be, one MUST be.”
• How do you create flow in your life?

• What is Polyamory?
• Open relationships
• Open marriage and pregnancy
• How to be parents and be in an open marriage
• Not just for about the sex
• Does wanting an open relationship mean something is wrong with your current relationship?
• The number 1 pitfall of open relationships
• What about jealousy?
• Is having an open relationship a lot of work?
• Why do open relationships fail?
• What needs to be in place before a couple would try an open relationship?

• Joel’s Workouts: No equipment necessary, short amount of time
• The 4 Key Factors to Effective Workouts
• Stretching -- when/how to get most benefits
• Why is it easier for certain guys to stay in shape than others?
• Why do you workout? To look better or to be stronger?
• What about the guy that doesn’t have time to workout?
• What to do if you’re feeling pain
• What happens if you and your partner are out of sync when it comes to fitness?
• Do you deserve to be in amazing shape? In a great relationship? In a great job?
• So much conflicting information on fitness and nutrition: What are the facts?
• What’s one thing you can do to feel more fit and strong today?
• Where to find Joel’s workouts online for free

• Fit Pack DVD

• http://www.tripplanier.com/sex for more information
• What are the blocks that come up for guys around sex?
• All of us have some hang ups or hooks around sex
• Not owning desire has us making small talk, talking bullshit
• Your relationship to sex is communicated LOUDLY outside of the bedroom
• Women can feel where you’re hung up on sex
• How can some guys “get away with” talking explicit about sex with women?
• If you’re not comfortable with yourself as a primal, sexual being it will show up in many areas of your life
• It affects guys in relationships too
• Are you bringing your raw masculine attraction to the bedroom?
• Guys can be in touch with their raw masculine but at the same time objectifying their partner
• Guys can be in a connected space with their partner but lacking a true passionate ground
• Sex with heart, raw/primal energy is an ideal
• Macho Jerk is all about the cock, raw/primal energy but no heart
• New Age Wimp is all about the heart connection but lacks his primal/raw energy
• Growing up with guilt/shame around sex
• Physical blocks
• Protecting your balls
• Pay attention to where you hold tension in your body
• Breathing fully can impact sexual polarity
• Emotional blocks
• Belief structures
• “Sex is...” fill in the blank
• Find your unconscious beliefs around sex
• Interpersonal blocks -- Relationship blocks
• Sex is suffering because relationship is suffering
• Punishing our partner or vice versa
• Not feeling safe with our partner or vice versa
• Resonance vs polarity
• David Deida -- masculine and feminine
• Polarity and intensity come from not doing everything together
• The importance of the Man-cave
• Quality of time vs quantity of time with your partner
• Emotional hang ups
• Fear of sex
• Performance anxiety
• Notice where you hold tension, how full is your breathing
• Take a look at your belief structures around sex
• Notice where you’re holding back emotions
• If you’re holding back in your relationship, start being more straight forward
• If you feel that the relationship is losing its zing, be willing to spend less time together in service of creating more passion and polarity
• Authentic Sexual Power -- DVDs and CDs
• Very explicit and informative
• Practices

• Don’t be afraid of your woman’s storm
• How to go through something hard and come out okay
• Why am I in this relationship?
• Life with a woman is about storm
• Storming is about being passionate
• Do you want a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot?
• Storming is to test a man, to see if he’s trustable
• The storm does not mean something is wrong
• Do not buckle to the storm
• If you buckle, she will take over your role in the relationship or look for some way to fill it
• It’s not about winning a fight or dominating the scenario
• She’s entitled to her response and it has virtually nothing to do with you
• Don’t take on her feelings
• And don’t defensively posture
• Stay curious
• We want to know that in our relationships, we can say anything
• Most common belief: I’m the only one that has to deal with this
• Don’t try to do it alone
• Get help with big problem areas -- find a therapist, coach or counselor
• Trust that your relationship can stand the test and actually grow
• Look at your partner as a team member, not as your opponent

• “If I could just talk to her about this, things would be better...”
• Fear that even speaking about stuff will set off a fight
• Can’t talk about sex, money, health issues
• How to discuss taboos
• Speaking your desire is the biggest topic
• Many people struggling being straight up with what they want in relationship
• It’s a dealbreaker that things can’t even be discussed
• We imagine how our partners will respond -- not based in reality
• Dating women with kids from a previous marriage
• It’s not okay to speak your truth
• Quit assuming you know what your partner is going to say or do
• Joking “around” the subject doesn’t help you -- it hurts you
• It’s not the topic that she’s rejecting, it’s how you’re approaching it
• Not owning your desire has you come off as creepy, untrustworthy
• If she can’t trust how you’re speaking about something, she can’t trust how you may do it
• Fallacy: “You’re responsible for my being satisfied”
• Drill down and get clear about why you desire this
• Make it right for having this in your life
• Don’t let your shame stuff it for you
• Don’t make it that she’s not okay with it
• Deep down, are you okay with it?
• If you’re scared or timid -- be straight with that, bring that to the conversation
• The danger of cutting off or not owning your desire
• Cutting off what you want makes you less trustworthy
• She may not like the content but she’ll trust you more
• You have a choice in every situation -- you just may not like the options
• What’s more important to you? To live a lie or to in integrity
• Being in relationship with a whole person

• The Mission of Project Mojave
• FinanceYourFreedom.com
• Quit your job, escape cubicle hell
• Living into your full potential
• Hoping a job will provide a sense of meaning/purpose
• Hoping more education will provide meaning/purpose
• There is no job that will “do it all” for you
• Feeling like a f**k up
• Stumbling in the workforce
• Feeding your family while following your purpose
• Guys are hesitant to take financial risks when they have a family
• Do you follow your vision or do you feed your family?
• Internet Marketing and Inner Game
• What is a Freedom Business?
• Helping people earn a living on the internet within three months
• To free up time for personal growth, family, etc.
• Freedom Business is a stepping stone to your Mission Business
• Designed to work quickly and without much startup money
• Information Products
• We want a guarantee of success
• We want the nuts and bolts of what to do
• Testing your business idea
• The Myth of: Do what you love and the money will follow
• Being driven by opportunity
• The need for a purpose in what you do
• Being driven by what you love
• How your Freedom Business serves your Mission
• What is Job-ification?
• How to keep from hating what you do
• Lack of itinitation rites for men in our culture and becoming a man through business
• Running a business will make you grow up
• Mission Mindmap, Statement and Journal
• Working on yourself is working on your business
• “What is my purpose in life?”
• “What do I need to do today so I can fall asleep tonight in peace knowing I have given everything?”

• Physical intensity -- the kind I may feel in an intense workout, hike or swim
• Emotional intensity -- allowing myself to actually FEEL pissed off or hurt or hell, even happy!
• Intensity from a woman -- she’s upset, yelling at me... you get the picture
• Sexual intensity -- allowing myself to fully feel my attraction, desire and physical sensations without having to ejaculate instantly, etc.
• Intensity of conflict -- when the going gets tough, it’s time to haul ass

• How Guy found his purpose by following his heart
• Going to art school in San Francisco
• How Circling came to be
• Being gifted at something
• Feeling more alive giving the gift
• Following where he felt most alive
• Following his deepest desire
• The difficulty of speaking your purpose/mission
• How you make your money, the people you hang out with
• The importance of having other men in your life
• The need for feedback from others
• Humans are the only creatures who can lie to ourselves
• The Narcissus Myth
• Falling in love with the reflection
• Agonizing over a yearning for the reflection
• You already are what you’ve been searching for
• You’ve found your purpose when it’s not outside of you “to get”
• A BMW or Confidence
• We want things because of the experience we think they will provide
• What is an expression of your confidence?
• Are you trying to get something from the world?
• Or are you trying to express something in the world?
• Look at what you’re currently doing in life
• Why am I really doing this?
• Start to be brutally honest with yourself
• What does that get you?
• Did you choose this?
• If no, what would you choose?
• Coaching, therapy, men’s groups
• David Deida
• Your death bed
• Guy’s year long coaching program
• How to be fully yourself
• Creating transformational moments
• Year long transformational crucible

• The Circling Process
• Purpose
• Finding your mission
• Helping others find their purpose
• Trying to find your purpose kinda screws it up
• The danger of not listening to yourself
• Living under the ultimate male-illusion
• “If you work hard enough one day it’ll be over”
• David Deida
• Striving to feel release, bliss
• Finding the answer means finding freedom
• Men are lost in the content of our lives
• To Do Lists, Jobs, Details, the Grindstone
• Getting lost in emails
• How do you feel after your work?
• Purpose equals context
• Purpose is why you’re doing what you’re do
• Purpose is not the accomplishment
• Year Long Coaching Program
• When work becomes a burden
• The difference between work and living your purpose
• Why are you doing what you do?
• What do you really want?
• What is my desire?
• Separating your voice from the voices of others
• Parents, Friends, Society
• Having the balls to ask these questions
• You always have a “why” for the things in life
• Is it your “why”?
• Your current life supports you to stay where you are
• Feeling drained or burdened indicates you’re not living your purpose
• Start to get honest with yourself
• Be willing to admit that you don’t know what is driving you
• What gives your actions meaning?
• Start with what is your purpose right now?
• Are you living someone else’s life?
• Doing what your told?
• Defying what your told?
• Everything I do is something I’ve consciously do from the heart
• Discovering your prison cell is elating
• You’re not locked in your prison cell
• The beginning of choice
• You can only make choices for things that you’re aware of
• There’s more possible
• Continuously waking up
• Not a utopia
• Is your “why” a chosen why?

• Roman Catholic Church
• Pedophilia
• Homosexuality
• Equating pedophiles and homosexuals
• Homosexuality within the Roman Church
• Bigotry
• The New York Times
• Standing up to the Roman Church
• Prejudice against homosexual, lesbian community
• Perpetuating Homophobia
• Pedophilia has nothing to do with sexual orientation
• Seton Hall and it’s administration
• The importance of controversial ideas
• Roman church aiding pedophiles
• Scapegoating gay men
• The straight white male establishment
• Ideas are changing towards LGBT
• Homophobia is another form of misogyny
• White straight men are not at fault
• Living in a patriarchal society
• Fear of anything different
• The importance of personal experience
• Irony of sex in American culture
• Mixed messages in our culture with regards to sex
• Sex is private
• Trying to legislate sexual morality
• Being a “fag” in the locker room
• Younger generations are more tolerant
• Most of us know someone who is gay
• Most gay men are not safe in parts of this country
• How are gay and straight men similar?
• Essentialism
• Gay people see the world differently
• Gay ghettos -- Chelsea, the Castro -- crime rates are low
• The danger of stereotyping
• Straight alpha males
• How gays interact - power differentials
• Gays and women being outside of the power differential
• Gays and men’s work
• The Mankind Project
• Straight men and same sex experiences
• Shame
• Being in one’s power
• Seeking truth in a safe way
• Father issues
• Waiting to see if it’s safe to come out of the closet
• Gays as social chameleons
• Trust is built and earned
• What gay men and straight men can teach each other
• Straight men and the struggle with monogamy
• Gay men and emotional monogamy vs sexual monogamy
• You don’t have to expect “everything” out of just one person
• What happens after prince charming meets his princess?
• The trap of “finding the one”
• Marriages that are emotionally and sexually dead
• Talk with your wife that you’re feeling stuck in the marriage
• She may be feeling stuck, too
• Divorces, satisfying marriages
• CLAG -- Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies

• Yoga, Meditation and Money
• Blending finances with spirituality
• Leaving a meaningful legacy
• Life changes in India
• Psychology and Finances
• Abacus Portfolios
• Why finances/money such a loaded topic for people
• Fear for Survival
• Your financial worst case scenario
• Fears that we face have less power than the ones we don’t
• It’s Not About the Money
• Happiness and fear usually unrelated to how much money you have
• It’s about you, your relationship to fear and money
• A four year old runs your financial life
• If I just had more I would be happy
• Fulfillment and well being
• Believing advertising
• Comparing ourselves to others
• Prioritize well being
• Why the disconnect between reality and our thoughts?
• The mind makes a problem out of life
• What is running the mental treadmill?
• Nothing wrong with money
• Dalai Lama on money
• Money is not evil
• Grasping, clinging creates the problem
• “If I have that then I’ll be happy”
• We Get What We Think We Deserve
• Subconscious mind, nervous system and money
• Lottery winners, NFL Players and bankruptcy
• Core story with money
• Eight Financial Achetypes
• The Guardian
• The Pleasure Seeker
• The Innocent
• The Idealist
• The Caretaker
• The Star
• The Empire Builder
• The Saver
• Balance is better than being imbalanced
• How to save your marriage with money problems
• We attract the achetype that we most need to develop
• What is your money mask?
• Secrecy keeps us trapped in our money woes

1. Create a list of 5-10 people that really inspire you. Maybe it’s their deeds in the world, but see if you can discern the difference between their accomplishments and how you actually feel just by seeing them.
2. Collect photos of these people in candid, open and available states -- I found that I was most attracted to my list of people when they were “caught” smiling -- not posing.
3. This is key -- Line up the photos in front of you. Take a moment to notice what comes alive in you. What do you feel?
4. Feel it in your body. Is it in your chest (mine was), throat, belly? Make a mental note to listen to this part of your body.
5. Consider yourself pregnant. Nurture this sensation and focus on it. Allow it to grow. Touch it. Warm it up. Love it up. This IS your power.
6. After a few breaths, ask yourself, “Who do I have to BE to become a part of this group? What in me is called forward?”
7. Practice this process everyday until you can OWN this. This is your greatness. It can’t be given to you. You have to claim it.

VibraVac from Sex, God, Rock 'n Roll on Vimeo.

• Interpreting the challenges in life
• Reality Show on A&E “Three Foot Giant”
• Your “victim story” is the biggest thing holding you back
• Fairness is an illusion
• Your responsibility to live is a vicTOR vs a vicTIM
• Your mentality creates your reality
• Living your dreams makes some people nervous
• Is this going to be a gift or a burden in your life?
• Nobody has it easy
• Maintain and upgrade your beliefs
• How your community keeps you where you are
• Surround yourself with solid people
• The “Sean-tourage”
• You are like your friends
• Character traits of those around you
• How do we choose our friends?
• If something is meant to be, you can take it slow
• Tolerating crappy relationships
• Book -- “Get Off Your But”
• Fears
• Insecurities
• Excuses
• Go for long term pleasure which is fulfilling
• Finding your purpose is sexy
• What do I need to do today to be living my purpose?
• Where are you most happy & fulfilled?
• We are more scared of success than failure
• Being challenged about how much you want it
• Rule with a velvet hammer
• How challenging yourself physically strengthens you mentally
• What was the worst day of your life?
• Learn from others’ experiences
• The boundary of your problem
• Face your fear
• When you do things that are courageous you gain confidence
• InnerGameMagazine.com

• The gift of being smacked with a stick
• A valuable lesson from Jun Po
• Living a paradox
• “You can’t fuck it up and you can’t get it right”
• Working so hard to get it right and not screw it up
• Play full out and have fun with the screw ups
• Sacred Laughter
• Learning to recognize when you feel less whole
• What gets in the way of your potential
• Shadow work mixed with meditation
• Waiting to open up until you trust someone
• Wariness begets wariness
• Trying to protect yourself actually pushes people away
• Being less approachable, intimidating
• Pushing away people that actually want to help
• Becoming a retreat, seminar or workshop junkie
• How to melt shame
• Terminal uniqueness 
• Making things less significant without being dismissive
• Don’t be a wound worshipper
• Your secrets kill you -- get them “out there”
• It’s not that bad when you put it out there
• Having your friends help you see what is driving you
• What are you scared of? What are you defending yourself against?
• Notice what you’re avoiding
• Can you be playful with that?
• Tell someone what you’re scared of
• Being more trustworthy
• The energy drain of “keeping it all together”
• Where the juice, depth and meaning in life is for you

• Grammy Winner
• Platinum Selling Artist
• Complete badass virtuoso in jazz, funk, r&b, metal, punk, etc.
• Shared the stage and studio with Carlos Santana, The Rolling Stones, Public Enemy, etc.

• Avoiding categorization -- being put into a box
• Keeping the focus on what you love
• Marching to the beat of your own drum
• Anthrax vs Burt Bacharach
• Music is about diving into the human experience
• Unique expression of “their moment”
• Learning how to listen to music
• Listen without judging
• James Brown
• The Beatles
• The Rolling Stones
• Dave Clark 5
• Sly Stone
• Jimi Hendrix
• Carlos Santana
• Frank Zappa
• Music that black people listen to vs what white people listen to
• Disclipline and practicing
• At first playing was awful, frustrating
• Little breakthroughs lead to big breakthroughs
• Learning how to be with frustration
• As a father seeing disclipline in younger generations
• Instant gratification vs hard work
• Trying to remove risk from the equation of life
• “Inside of your struggle is your sound”
• Comfort and convenience can take away from your voice
• Avoiding and distracting ourselves from mortality
• Using mortality and frustration to live the moment
• People want to avoid what sucks
• Shortcuts mean no individuality
• Great people all struggled
• Finding your voice without fixing it or perfecting it
• Jeff Beck shows us how to be ourselves
• The Edge from U2
• Henry Rollins hates U2
• Johnny Marr, The Smiths “How Soon is Now”
• Walter Becker from Steely Dan
• Having your own sound/voice is more important than technique
• Realizing your own voice
• Ronald Shannon Jackson
• Fusion -- Jazz and Rock
• Carlos Santana, John McLaughlin & Robert Fripp (King Crimson)
• The Decoding Society
• The Who “I hope I die before I get old”
• Older men still in “the young man’s” game of rock
• The importance of living in the moment and projecting yourself into the future
• Being fascinated with young people - prettiest, sexual peak
• The only constant is change vs The more the things change, the more they stay the same
• Science Fiction and his fascination with gear
• Forbidden Planet & The Day the Earth Stood Still
• Where’s my Jet Pack?
• The future was supposed to be dope
• I want my hovering skateboard
• The sexual culture is buckwild
• How does life measure up to your dreams?
• Having his wallet returned just as big as playing with The Rolling Stones
• Hearing his daughter read
• The “little stuff” is massive
• It’s about the wild moments
• We’re bored with life
• Giraffes
• Elephants are bad motherfuckers
• We overlook the familiar
• The quotidian things mean a lot
• Mortality makes us live more
• Being inspired by the people in our lives
• The overemphasis of being results oriented
• The danger of losing “the journey”
• All the girls you ever slept with are going to pass away
• We’re only here for a little while
• George Carlin
• The planet is going to be fine
• Really taste this moment in life
• A last time for everything
• Your last orgasm

• The Red Book: A Deliciously Unorthodox Approach to Igniting Your Divine Spark
• The Spiritual Cowgirl
• Unorthodox approach to spirituality
• Being your self is the essence of being spiritual
• Pretentious Spiritual Types
• Sera Beak is Satan
• Disturbing the Buddhists
• Don’t be provocative just for the sake of being provocative
• Provoke with compassion
• Be your authentic self
• Reclaiming spirituality from those who have made it boring
• Brazilian bikini waxed prayers
• Trying to fit into external expectations of what is spiritual
• How to get real and present
• Inside out spirituality vs cookie-cutter spirituality
• Living from a larger place is a turn on to others
• Where do men base their value? If it’s from the inside it is sexy
• Doesn’t have to be esoteric or woo-woo
• Why is it so hard to answer the question, “who am I?”
• Cultural expectations, rules and cues
• Not necessary to read a ton of books or go to workshops
• Stop following the crowd unconsciously
• Standing out from the crowd
• Social resistance doesn’t mean it’s wrong
• Perseverance
• How giving birth is painful but not wrong
• Growing and learning to be yourself can be uncomfortable
• Discern what pain means you’re going down the wrong road and what pain is part of the process of growing
• How are we different from other cultures?
• Becoming who we are is the natural human condition
• Westerners are lucky
• Privilege of being able to pursue spirituality in life
• Make the most of the privilege
• What is “red”?
• REDvolutionary
• Spiritual Super-heroines
• Sex toys, good wine and gold body glitter
• Fashion
• Humor
• Green vs Red
• Humping Trees vs Hugging Trees
• Making love to all existence
• Fist-f##ked by Mother Nature
• Where to men fit in?
• Masculine and Feminine doesn’t necessarily mean Male or Female
• Being more passionate, playful and authentic
• Fierce love knows no gender
• Bringing the feminine back to spiritual practice
• What is sexy?
• The danger “spiritual” ways of being
• The Devil Wears Crocs
• Thigh High Boots
• What the hell is “red” for me?
• Sera’s Offerings

• Women’s arousal pattern is different than men’s
• Why she doesn’t initiate sex
• Get over the myth of reciprocity in sex
• Women want to feel deeply desired by their partner
• Not just deeply desiring to “get off” with her
• Make the passion about her, not just about “getting off”
• What if you no longer desire your partner?
• Don’t be afraid to get outside help -- qualified sex therapist
• Go to a sex therapist vs “regular” psychologist
• AASECT.org
• SSTARNET.org
• Don’t overdo “closeness”
• Avoiding conflict, being the peacemaker
• Non-violent communication
• Balancing domesticity with sexual passion
• Don’t get neutered
• Harmony can reduce passion
• What are you doing to remove the spark from your relationship?
• Where’s my desire in this moment? Own it.
• Vulnerability means speaking what you wants
• Vulnerability is taking risks
• Take your woman “on a ride”
• Do something where you don’t know how she’s going to respond
• When and how to talk to her if this stuff isn’t working
• Accept that you have different styles -- doesn’t mean you’re wrong
• Remove the blame and shame
• Why women have sex
• What if she doesn’t care about sex?
• Your sexual needs matter -- don’t cut it off
• Keep it simple and stick to the basics
• MyPleasure.com -- products and education

• Oprah’s Vah-J-J
• Vibrator called “The Sure Thing”
• The Aphrodite
• Oprah makes it ok to use sex toys
• It’s now mainstream to take an active role in making sex lives better
• Myth: Sex life is over after marriage
• Chris Rock
• Married life = death of sex
• Repressing sexual desire
• Turning to porn
• Having affairs
• What can this guy do?
• Not a myth that sex changes in marriage
• Being passive won’t make it better
• Probably not as bad as you think it is
• Desire discrepancy
• Most common thing sex therapists deal with in couples
• Polarizing sex
• Couples are closer to sexual desires than perception
• Taking it personally that she doesn’t want to have sex
• Perceived rejection
• Coping mechanisms
• Shutting off desire -- clamping it off
• Not being alive as a man when cutting off sexual desire
• Trying to “keep the peace” doesn’t serve the relationship
• Resentment is almost irreversible
• Avoiding anger actually builds resentment
• What a guy can do to turn this around
• Simple techniques
• Change the dynamic
• It’s not always that the guy wants all the sex
• For half of couples, the woman wants more sex
• Non-goal oriented sensuality
• Keep her guessing
• Sex is no longer about ejaculation
• Neediness is not attractive
• Build arousal and passion
• Getting out of the sexual routine
• Routine is the enemy of passion
• Novelty is an aphrodisiac
• Small changes can have a big impact

• AMP -- No longer just focusing on relating with women
• Focusing on living an inspiring life
• Are you lit up by your life?
• This leads to great success with women
• It’s about living an amazing life as a whole
• Shitty economy as a motivator for living with more integrity
• Micro-breaks in integrity
• Just going with the flow
• Allowing things to just happen even if we’re not in alignment with them
• Shows us how important integrity is individually and collectively
• Little things add up and impact all of us
• What is the impact of my actions on other people?
• Being disconnected from the things that make a huge impact in our life
• Being on autopilot in your life
• Taking things for granted
• Being disconnected from our decisions means it is easier to be out of integrity
• Recognizing how our actions impact others
• Seeing where in our lives we’re “going through the motions”
• Helping people see where they’re sleepwalking
• Challenging each other, having fun, lighting a fire under our ass
• How do I know if I’m sleepwalking?
• Do the things I do nourish me?
• People around us can support us in our sleepwalking
• Getting more explicit about why you do what you do
• Getting clear about what you really care about
• Enjoying yourself more as part of the process
• Recognizing what is already amazing in your life
• If I’m really happy in my life I don’t need to buy a bunch of stuff
• Save money by being happier with what you already have
• Being needy means being out of relationship to what really matters to you
• Consumerism: Buying stuff to fill a hole in your life
• Using people to feel better about yourself
• Getting in touch with what is most important
• Waking up out of your own sleepwalking
• Relating with women as a metaphor for living your life
• Who is AMP 2.0 for?
• Back to basics: getting finances together, taking care of your body, improving your living situation
• Clearing out emotional, mental, relational leaks that drain you of energy
• Reclaiming energy instead of just trying to get by
• No man left behind, price is not a barrier to participate
• What are guys really challenged by, what do they want to learn?
• 7 week online course
• Kicking Tripp’s ass for fun

• Jeff Spicoli and Fast Times at Ridgemont High
• Technology Addiction
• Continuous Partial Attention
• Washington Post Experiment -- Joshua Bell, violinist in the subway
• How meditation is hard
• Getting kicked out of a meditation retreat
• ADHD
• Bad energy is worse than body odor
• The Likability Factor
• Laughter is the way to get the panties off of a girl
• Jerry Garcia and the Grateful Dead
• India
• Creating spaciousness in your mind creates spaciousness in your life

• Creating Attraction
• Deeper Connections
• Being the nerd
• Being the guy who has it all but is feels empty
• How to get beyond small talk
• Concentrating on outer appearances to cover up insecurities
• Using women to fill a void
• Following a hunch instead of having it all figured out
• The importance of feedback from men and women
• The value of having solid men in your life
• Killing attraction -- being needy, wishy washy or being fearful of rejection
• Being clear with your desire
• How core beliefs sabotage you -- “I don’t deserve this”, “I’m not enough”
• How so many “successful” men have a difficult time with women
• Settling for less vs going for what you want
• How taking risks builds attraction
• What to expect at The Red Pill Weekend

• Are you tired of feeling frustrated or confused with women?
• Are you sick of coming home from work every day feeling burned out, unsatisfied, like you’re wasting your life in a job that doesn’t tap into your full potential?
• Are you tired of trying too hard to meet the right woman?
• Are you sick of feeling shut down when you start to feel attraction or sexual desire around a woman?